Should I Stop Speaking to My Trump-Supporting Friends?

Must I confront them?

View in browser|nytimes.com Continue reading the main story December 5, 2020 Illustration by Tomi Um THE ETHICIST Should I Stop Speaking to My Trump-Supporting Friends? The magazine’s Ethicist columnist on ending friendships with those who back the president, identifying as L.G.B.T.Q. on medical-school applications — and more. By Kwame Anthony Appiah Am I morally bound to confront friends who support President Trump or to stop speaking to them? I find it untenable that anyone could support such a deficient person. He is xenophobic and a liar. He admires authoritarian rulers, lacks self-control and is an inciter of division in our country. He serves his own self-interest to the point of complete indifference to anyone, including his supporters, as his Covid-19 response and self-dealing clearly demonstrate. I cannot find tolerance for the “other side.” To date, however, I’ve just kept quiet and avoided the subject with people I know are beyond convincing. Is that adequate? Read the Ethicist’s response here. THIS WEEK’S MAGAZINE Jeff Minton for The New York Times Feature How Nick Kroll Became the Picasso of Puberty His show “Big Mouth” is a seriously funny — and surprisingly mature — exploration of humanity’s most horrifying shared experience. By Molly Young Bharat Sikka for The New York Times Feature India’s Leading Documentary Filmmaker Has a Warning Anand Patwardhan spent decades tracking the rise of Hindu nationalism. And now, under an increasingly repressive government, he holds his screenings in secret. By Abhrajyoti Chakraborty Continue reading the main story ADVERTISEMENT MORE FROM THE MAGAZINE Photograph by Heami Lee Food stylist: Maggie Ruggiero. Prop stylist: Rebecca Bartoshesky. Eat By Samin Nosrat Rice and Beans, With an Exhilarating Crunch Like the Persian tahdig Samin Nosrat grew up eating, this Puerto Rican arroz con gandules delivers a crispy layer you won’t be able to resist. By Samin Nosrat Photo illustration by Ina Jang Diagnosis Her Legs Would Barely Follow Her Brain. Then She Saw Double. She’d just quit drinking, but could that really have anything to do with these disturbing symptoms? By Lisa Sanders, M.D. Photo illustration by Najeebah Al-Ghadban Screenland I Want to Live in the Reality of ‘The Queen’s Gambit’ It’s no accident that this year’s most popular fairy tale is about a woman celebrated for her genius. By Carina Chocano   Talk Paul McCartney Is Still Trying to Figure Out Love “It’s always a splendid puzzle. Even though I write love songs, I don’t think I know what’s going on.” By David Marchese Poem: The Body Electric A poem with a breath that moves from the intimate to the vast, from solitude to community. By James Crews and Naomi Shihab Nye Illustration by Radio Tip How to Build a Snowman It doesn’t have to be a man. Pat the snow as you go. Leave scarves outside to cool before accessorizing. By Malia Wollan Illustration by Louise Zergaeng Pomeroy Bonus Advice From Judge John Hodgman Judge John Hodgman on Contested Uno Victories Can your 11-year-old daughter overturn your winning hand? By Judge John Hodgman Continue reading the main story ADVERTISEMENT Stay in touch: Follow us on Twitter (@NYTmag). Appreciated this email? Forward it to a friend and help us grow. Loved a story? Hated it? Write us a letter at magazine@nytimes.com.Did a friend forward this to you? Sign up here to get the magazine newsletter. Continue reading the main story ADVERTISEMENT Check us out on Instagram, where you’ll find photography from our archives, behind-the-scenes snippets from photo shoots, interviews on how we design our covers and outtakes that don’t make it into the issue. Learn more about the experiences and costs of war. Sign up for the At War newsletter to receive stories about conflict from Times reporters and outside voices. Continue reading the main story Need help? Review our newsletter help page or contact us for assistance. You received this email because you signed up for The New York Times Magazine from The New York Times. To stop receiving these emails, unsubscribe or manage your email preferences. Subscribe to The TimesGet The New York Times app Connect with us on: Change Your EmailPrivacy PolicyContact UsCalifornia Notices The New York Times Company. 620 Eighth Avenue New York, NY 10018